Friday, September 23, 2005
Complications of life
I'm contented to know that there's at least a couple of vistiors reading my blog! Yay! Least i din't get a pathetic ZERO for visitor number count! Its always nice and encouraging to hear what people have to say upon reading your posts, so i hope u guys could give me your comments if any by clicking the 'damn comments' which is located below every post! Cheerios!
We all came into this world the same way. Through our mom's womb - naked, cover with blood and crying/screaming. Is it right to say therefore we share the same complications in life? Complications that is: friends and love.
Conspicuously i've been brooding over why friends are so two-faced. Some say friends are one of the best gifts from god but i say friends are the biggest disappointments in my life. What makes a true friend? One that would stand by u during your darkest days, one who sees your soul and not your 'shell', one who finds it hard to say 'no' to your desperate cries for help and one who spares a thought for your feelings. The pivotal point of recognizing our true friends are always during our 'crisis' times in life.
A and B used to be best friends but drifted apart over the years. Some time later....
A: Hey brother can lend me $200? I return u asap ok?
B: *Thinking hard*
In the past, whenever A is hanging out or going anywhere he would ask B along, include him in everything and never allow him to be left out. Sometime later for no particular reasons he only contact B whenever he need help, and its always money or girls issues. B thought through everything and said to himself.."It would be better if he fuck off from my life!".
I do ponder if there's such a thing as 'giving face' amongst friendships. I do have some 'popular' or 'influencing' classmates who organise stuffs activities such as clubbing sessions, ktv sessions, shopping days or movies. Their calls seem to be answered all the time by the majority and that's only expected. Fine. This ain't no sour grapes, just pure disappointment and anger. Whenever, and god knows how many times, I suggested anything is always greeted with half hearted responses. What are half hearted responses.
"errr duno leh.."
"got who go?.."
"hmmm very sian leh..."
"no bah u all go loh..."
"i sick...(immediately changes his msn nick to "XXXX sick")"
"no reply" (most common)
"no money leh..."
I will hold my hands up if what i suggested was something stupid or outrageous but attending a party? Okie maybe its its true that there are always occupied days on people's calendar. But the reason is always seemily me, myself and i. Incredibly Floyd's suggestions and calls are always met with negative responses. And whenever Mr or Miss Popular is calling, I'm expected to go. And for fuck's sake i'm always the last to know about anything. Its like..."we discuss la finish liao someone tell floyd loh..he sure go one lah...".
Conversations i'm always left out. Please do just tell me straight in my face "hey its a fucking painstaking task talking to u man!". Yes i admit i do need repetition sometimes but its as if i asked for it and u have to ask god why he gave me such a fucking shit.
I don't believe in best friends, even though i love my friends. I always find it hard to say no to anything they request, even on a bad day or a bad mood. But where has all these come to? Nothing, just more disappointments.
Singlehood or Attached? A key question a number of us face out there and i guess this is something which have no definite answer. Its really down to how each and everyone of us see things and as we know, different people have different perspectives.
Literally i feel being attached has an advantage over singlehood. Yes i know in singlehood we could do anything we wish like nobody's business. We could flirt for all we want, spend as we wish, and do things the way we like and. These are really some of the best points of singlehood that a relationship can't offer. Unless u wanna cheat on your partner or hurt him/her. So what about a relationship then? For sure it offers love, care and having someone that could make your day and aplenty of others more.
Make no mistake, people who are in a relationship tends to say singlehood is better and vice versa. I guess the best is to mix both singlehood and attached together. That means a relationship that doesn't ties one down, with freedom and respect. Its not plain sailing though, trust is easily broken but difficult to regain. But if there's enough trust and mutal respect for each other's priorities such a relationship is attainable and its way better than being single!
Tired after reading such a long post? Here's a joke!
A: hey u know scuba diving?
B: ya why?
A: wanna go?
B: where?
A: at pulau chebeh!
B: ...pulau wat? apa?
A: PULAU CHEBEH!
B: wtf r u talking?
A: cheebeh la!
I'm contented to know that there's at least a couple of vistiors reading my blog! Yay! Least i din't get a pathetic ZERO for visitor number count! Its always nice and encouraging to hear what people have to say upon reading your posts, so i hope u guys could give me your comments if any by clicking the 'damn comments' which is located below every post! Cheerios!
We all came into this world the same way. Through our mom's womb - naked, cover with blood and crying/screaming. Is it right to say therefore we share the same complications in life? Complications that is: friends and love.
Conspicuously i've been brooding over why friends are so two-faced. Some say friends are one of the best gifts from god but i say friends are the biggest disappointments in my life. What makes a true friend? One that would stand by u during your darkest days, one who sees your soul and not your 'shell', one who finds it hard to say 'no' to your desperate cries for help and one who spares a thought for your feelings. The pivotal point of recognizing our true friends are always during our 'crisis' times in life.
A and B used to be best friends but drifted apart over the years. Some time later....
A: Hey brother can lend me $200? I return u asap ok?
B: *Thinking hard*
In the past, whenever A is hanging out or going anywhere he would ask B along, include him in everything and never allow him to be left out. Sometime later for no particular reasons he only contact B whenever he need help, and its always money or girls issues. B thought through everything and said to himself.."It would be better if he fuck off from my life!".
I do ponder if there's such a thing as 'giving face' amongst friendships. I do have some 'popular' or 'influencing' classmates who organise stuffs activities such as clubbing sessions, ktv sessions, shopping days or movies. Their calls seem to be answered all the time by the majority and that's only expected. Fine. This ain't no sour grapes, just pure disappointment and anger. Whenever, and god knows how many times, I suggested anything is always greeted with half hearted responses. What are half hearted responses.
"errr duno leh.."
"got who go?.."
"hmmm very sian leh..."
"no bah u all go loh..."
"i sick...(immediately changes his msn nick to "XXXX sick")"
"no reply" (most common)
"no money leh..."
I will hold my hands up if what i suggested was something stupid or outrageous but attending a party? Okie maybe its its true that there are always occupied days on people's calendar. But the reason is always seemily me, myself and i. Incredibly Floyd's suggestions and calls are always met with negative responses. And whenever Mr or Miss Popular is calling, I'm expected to go. And for fuck's sake i'm always the last to know about anything. Its like..."we discuss la finish liao someone tell floyd loh..he sure go one lah...".
Conversations i'm always left out. Please do just tell me straight in my face "hey its a fucking painstaking task talking to u man!". Yes i admit i do need repetition sometimes but its as if i asked for it and u have to ask god why he gave me such a fucking shit.
I don't believe in best friends, even though i love my friends. I always find it hard to say no to anything they request, even on a bad day or a bad mood. But where has all these come to? Nothing, just more disappointments.
Singlehood or Attached? A key question a number of us face out there and i guess this is something which have no definite answer. Its really down to how each and everyone of us see things and as we know, different people have different perspectives.
Literally i feel being attached has an advantage over singlehood. Yes i know in singlehood we could do anything we wish like nobody's business. We could flirt for all we want, spend as we wish, and do things the way we like and. These are really some of the best points of singlehood that a relationship can't offer. Unless u wanna cheat on your partner or hurt him/her. So what about a relationship then? For sure it offers love, care and having someone that could make your day and aplenty of others more.
Make no mistake, people who are in a relationship tends to say singlehood is better and vice versa. I guess the best is to mix both singlehood and attached together. That means a relationship that doesn't ties one down, with freedom and respect. Its not plain sailing though, trust is easily broken but difficult to regain. But if there's enough trust and mutal respect for each other's priorities such a relationship is attainable and its way better than being single!
Tired after reading such a long post? Here's a joke!
A: hey u know scuba diving?
B: ya why?
A: wanna go?
B: where?
A: at pulau chebeh!
B: ...pulau wat? apa?
A: PULAU CHEBEH!
B: wtf r u talking?
A: cheebeh la!
posted by mango at 11:47 PM
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