What guys want (part 1)

Been days since i blogged, sorry for the lack of updates my frens! Past few days either too slack, lazy or busy to blog, so here's one long interesting entry to make up for it!

People are always talking about how difficult to please a girl or what it takes to win a girl's heart. But have we ever considered the guys and their needs and desires? Its not easy understanding guys and their needs as well.

Lets start with some facts about guys, golden geniune facts!

Fact no.1 - Guys appreciate girls who take the initiative
Ok i know guys are always supposed to make the first moves and take the initiatives, but we're living in modern times now. Guys with character always believe in the balance of power although there will still be some who have traditional thinkings that guys should take the initiatives. Guys love girls who show an interest in them. Isn't it human nature?

Fact no.2 - Guys are extremely jealous creatures
Professional guys are competitive and hate to lose or even think of losing what they have. If he's jealous, he's struggling with the thought that he thinks there is someone out there who can make his gf happier and treat her better. This is mental toture at its most subtle and strikes at the heart of a man's fear - that he is not man enough to make the woman he loves happy. So its a mistake to try to use jealousy as a ploy to reel a guy closer to u. He will drop u cold rather than suffer this kind of toture.

Fact no.3 - Guys are turned off by girls who play hard to get
If a girl thinks a relationship would have worked out had she played harder to get, she is wrong. Relationships are formed and sustained by chemistry and hard work. To be sure, its human nature to want what we can't have, and so posing a challenge may sometimes make a guy chase. But if there is no chemistry, no substance and once the chase is over and the challenge is conquered, the relationship is destined for failure. Many guys hate mind games and girls who think they have some big fuck looks. A girl playing hard to get may not even be giving herself a fair chance to make it work with a guy. To guys, just trying to meet and have a relationship with a girl is a challenge already itself.

Fact no.4 - Guys have a hard time interpreting girls' talk
When a girl talks as she naturally does, a guy often finds it difficult to understand her. He senses all sorts of things circulating beneath the surface of the conversation but is not too sure what they are. This is usually the case with sensitive guys although the insensitive ones are not ruled out either. When a girl says, "Lets talk about our relationship", the guy will probably think to himself, "whats wrong? what does she want me to say? is there any problems with our relationship?"

Fact no.5 - Guys love looking at girls
Not every guy who look at girls are perverts or have evil designs on her. Primary reason is that the girl is HOT or pretty. Its the same for girls looking at good looking guys. There are also other reasons such as the girl carries herself well or seem special in some way. Whatever u call it, looking at girls is guys' way of gossiping.

Fact no.6 - Guys' natural inclination is to have sex with many women
Note the word 'natural', we are borned like this but it doesn't mean we think like this when we grow up. Guys will cheat anyway, scoundrels and jerks we are. Looking at different naked women satisfies a guy's visual imagination - thats why guys satisfy their needs for variety through pornography. And of course all guys masturbate, nerds included.

Fact no.7 - The way to a guy's heart is through his ego
Forget it if he says he doesnt mind. There isn't a guy in this world without an ego, its just a matter of how big his ego is. Any guy will be drawn to a girl who thinks and care about him. Guys marry girls who are loyal and supportive. They need their wives to be on their sides instead of constantly tearing him down and going against him. His ego won't be able to tolerate the lifetime siege.

All guys will at some point of their lives stucked with this dilemma - how to approach a girl? No matter how daring a guy is, there will be countless thoughts filling up his mind before he approaches a girl. She will reject me. I'll make a fool of myself. Am i good enough? Is that a ring on her finger? Will she think i'm a desperate? These thoughts are usually balanced, positives comes after negatives. There's nobody sitting next to her. She's definitely looking at me. Maybe its just a school ring. Maybe she'd find me cute. I've nothing to lose. Usually if there're more positive than negative thoughts, the guy will approach the girl but there are also times whereby the guy just approach even though there are alot of negative thoughts in his head.

The one word used in such circumatances is rejection. All guys hate and fear rejection and by nature, guys are insecure. Its amazing how insecurity can turn a school ring into a wedding ring in their thoughts. No matter how rich, brilliant, famous or good-looking, a guy will always wonder: Does she have a bf? Will she blow me off? Does she hate men? Is she in a bad mood? But the most commmon reason for not approaching girls is the fear of rejection.

Unsuccessful attempts can have a devastating effect on guys. We will lose confidence, we will 'kick' ourselves and feel we're such a loser. Each rejection always stay in our mind and so it always makes it that much more difficult to try again next time. Those with strong determination are always the ones who managed to deal with rejection well. Worst, if there they are being rejected in a places full of people, they will feel even worse. So guys don't really fancy approaching a girl in places full of people, they will feel as if the whole world is staring at them, waiting for him to be shot down. But that doesn't includes crowded discos and pubs though. Its usually less nerve jangling for us there because everyone is busy dancing or doing their own shit and less awkward.

The most initimidating scenario to meet or approach a girl is usually during girls night out or an all girls group. The thought of having to go over to an all girls group and approach a girl resulting in embrassing ourselves is enough to kill any confidence. I'm not saying its wrong to have girls night out, the value of friendship is understandable. But i'm saying that if a girl sees a guy she'd like to meet she should step out of the group. This is also taking the initiatives and creating a chance and guys would appreciate this. 9 out of 10 times a guy approach a girl when she's partying with her girlfriends, he'd be turned down flat in the face and left with a sour taste.

As guys, we like it when the girl's more open minded in her speech and friendly. It's very difficult if the girl's so shy and keep looking away or something. We appreciate girls who are willing to talk if they're interested instead of behaving like a big fuck out there.

Sex is something that is tied down with all guys for good. For a guy, sexual compatibility can make or break the relationship. No i'm not saying every relationship needs to have sex involved, neither am i saying if the girl sucks on bed the guy's gonna dump her. I'm simply emphasizing how important sex is for a guy. The chemistry has to be there first of all, especially in the beginning. Bad, lousy or lukewarm sex, espcially in a new relationship will only spell incompatiability. Good sex gone bad will also sometimes mean the relationship is on the skids.

Not only is sex important to a guy, his sense of himself as a man is also tied to his sexual performance and the girl's satisfaction. Manhood is all about performance and ego. When these 2 are at stake, guys don't like taking too many risks. Put it simply, a real man will prefer not to have sex when he know he can't perform rather than risk not performing well. Its kind of awkward and hurting to our ego and manhood if we fail miserably on the bed and fail to satisfy the girl. A guy in an establised relationship will also not want to have sex all the time due to tiredness, watching sports or having a problem. This tells u the difference between the disgusting fuckers who go for sex all the time and the real guys. Not all guys are as desperate as u girls out there think!

Performance on the bed requires alot of effort from the guy, thats because sex is so fucking physically demanding and requires so much energy. Most of u think the guy is simply enjoying while fucking a girl but thats not true sometimes. The guy is always the one who does most of the 'work'. He must become hard, stay hard, perform the act, not ejaculate too quickly (or the girl will not attain orgasm), but make sure he ejaculates eventually. These are just the basics amongst the many more.

So what do guys want sexually? This is the big question. To summarise it up, guys want a girl with sexual power. By this, i mean that she attracts him, she is his type, and there is a chemical reaction. This is the girl who makes his heart start pumping as soon as she enters the room. Yes being able to perform on bed is one thing but there's more than this. A real girl with sexual power is a girl with her own worth, a girl with confidence, with spirit and happy happy in her own body. She doesn't have to be have a hot body like Jessica Simpson or a pettie face like Jolin Tsai. A girl with sexual power is not ashamed of her body and she oozes confidence such as after sex she's not afraid to walk across the room naked. Confidence can also be conveyed through the way she kisses and moves, as well as the way she knows hhow to please and be pleased. She's not afraid to tell him what she prefers and is willing to do what he wants to do and knows how to accentuate the experience. Guys want good sexual partners, thats a girl who knows how to allow the guy to take the lead while she follows but also know when is her turn to take the lead.

Every guy has a favourite position in sex somehow. And its vital to a guy that his partner is pleased and pleases him in this favoured position. For him, it spells compatibility and if a girl rejects, there is no way he will be satisfied. Its like telling a pizza lover he will never be able to eat pizza again! Although sexual preferences can be adjusted, its hard to change because somehow its in the blood. Guys dislike awkward issues or siutations during sex. They prefer a spirit of openness such as knowing how to communicate - physically and verbally.

In general, guys love vocal girls who enjoy having sex. Seriously i believe there isn't a guy in this world who is not excited when he hears a girl telling him she likes what he's doing. "You feel so good inside me", "Harder baby,harder!" Such talks are erotic and guys like it and although these are things that are taboo under normal circumstances, they are perfectly ok in bed. Guys will always look at shy girls as boring girls, except for of course the perverts who just wanna fuck all day. Girls should not overdo it though, don't act like u're trying to win an oscar or something we hate it and may think u're trying to be some porn star.

Guys also love sexy lingerie. Some girls understand this, some don't. The whole point of wearing beautiful underwears is to show that u have a sexy quality that u yourself recognize and enjoy. It shows u exude a certain confidence that, in turn excites your guy. Guys often ask this question: Why does she wear that big, grandma-style underwear?! To guys, girls are supposed to have a sexy quality so what they wear accomplishes this. In fact most guys have their own preference of girl's lingerie, from half-cup bras to those diamond studdes ones, to push-ups, thongs, g-strings, brazilians and the colors as well.

Lastly, guys just like to sleep after sex mainly because its physically exhausting and tiring. We're not being ignorant we're just doing what our body wants us to do. So the final rule is : Hands off after ejaculation!