What guys want (Part 2)

Certain truths about guys are rather ugly but they are important for the opposite sex to know. I'm not defending guys' behavior, i'm only speaking about it as it is.

Ugly Truths About Guys:

Ugly Truth no.1 - Guys use girls for Sex
This is no secret i guess, when a guy really love a girl he will show it so through his actions u can roughly tell if he's using u for sex or not. We have sex because we're lonely, we have sex to satisfy our sexual urges, we have sex to boost our ego. If we were walking through a hot, dry desert and saw a cactus a hundred yard away, we would run towards it and quench our thirst as much as we could. When we're in a sexual drought and see a woman WILLING to quench our sexual desire, we run towards her too.

Ugly Truth no.2 - Guys cheat on girls they love
One word to this - lust. A guy will sometimes lust after other girls despite haveing a terrific gf and relationship which have fufilled everything he wants. There are siutation whereby guys want more sexual variety thus they end up cheating their pretty gf for one who's kinda ugly. A good example - Huge Grant's gf is a beautiful model that any man would die for. But what did he do? He was arrested for allegedly picking up a hooker and receiving oral sex from her. Wayne Rooney visiting a grandma whore despite having a great gf is another example.

Ugly Truths no.3 - I'm not read for a .....commitment with u
"I'm not ready for a commitment." This line usually comes when a couple has been dating for awhile and the girl finally press the guy to commit to her and not see other girls anymore. When he says that he's not 'ready', girls usually think that its due to the timming. Wrong! A guy will know almost immediately whether or not the girl he is dating is a girl he would consider as a gf or potential wife. If he doesn't feels this way, he never will.

Ugly Truths no.4 - A girl's looks are almost everything
I've written a post before how important looks are. You may never want to believe its true but a girl's looks mean everything to a guy. Whenever a guy meets a girl the first time, he judge her by how attractive she is, to him. If he doesn't finds her attractive, game over baby! Of course every guy has different taste, so the girl doesn't have to be damn super gorgeous. This sucks but its true - if u have a beautiful sister, be sure that your bf had thoughts of having sex with her before.

Ugly Truths no.5 - Girls will always be 2nd in command
Typical and traditonal guys will insist on this rule - the guy will lead. Guys naturally hate to be 2nd in command, that is to let the girl decide on everything and he has little or no say in every issue. Guys' ego can't tolerate this toture and its only a matter of time before he says: "enough! i want out!"

Buying gifts for a girl is one of the hardest and most painful experience for a professional guy. Note that unprofessional guys will not give a damn, they can easily get a gift within 5 mins without considering anything. A real guy willl try to buy the perfect gift for the girl he loves. The trouble is he knows that his idea of a perfect gift may not be his gf's idea of a perfect gift. So he has to think like a girl when shopping for that gift. This is damn frustrating to say because most guys hate thinking like a girl with the exception of maybe metrosexual guys. Retrosexual (manly) guys usually have trouble thinking like a girl. This explains why guys sometimes approach their girl friends, sisters or even mom to ask for clues. The search for the gift can take weeks and lots of different stores, from little craft/gift stores to large department stores and even women's apparel stores. Though this is an ordeal for us, we do it anyway because we care about the girl in our lives and we know it means alot to her. So whenever a guy passes the gift to a girl, deep inside he'd be nervous thinking if she'd like it or not. Guys may not say it, but they really wished their gf would understand the tremendous 'job' he'd done and that she'd show some appreciation. The worst thing a girl can do is to show immediate disappointment upon opening the gift. The guy will be hurt and probably start to resent her. Joking or making fun of the gift is not a good idea also - his mom could have helped him pick the gift. Guys do not expect much from a girl when she receives his gift, just be appreciative whatever the gift is.

Guys are funny when it comes to compliments. If a guy takes a girl to a restaurent and she comments on how delicious the food is, the guy will feel as if he was the one who personally caught the fish or killed that cow, seasoned it and cooked it to perfection and serve it up for her. Same thing when a guy takes a girl out to a movie and she really enjoys it and tells him so. He's gonna feel as if he was the one who directed the whole movie and produced the film. Somehow complitments are vital to guys just like pampering is to girls. We love compliments as it makes us feel confident, happy and comfortable. Compliment also shows how much a girl cares and whether she's sensitive to his needs, and it serves well to help mysterious, shy, or conservative guys open up.

Ever heard of the saying - "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? Its true, guys have a soft spot for girls who cook for them. Cooking shows that u care and provides lots of affections. More importantly, it can help girls score points with their bf's mother. Just imagine a guy coming home after a hard day's work and there on the table's lots of great food. Its as good as a girl coming home and seeing diamonds on her bed. Sounds unrealistic but its true.

Girls can be generous to guys in actions as well as words. Guys love it when girls offer to pay for something on a date or buy them small thing as a token of their affection instead of treating them like some ATM or credit card. This is as good as the girl saying "I like u". Its not how much the stuff cost its the thoughts and efforts that counts...so u wouldn't probably see guys complaining about the gifts that girls buy for them. Most guys will feel especially touched by gifts that girls buy, especially IF its from a girl he likes and/or its not a gift-giving ocassion (xmas, bday, etc). There are still some rules when buying a guy gift though:

1. Buy him something u think he like, not something u like! (imagine buying a guy soft toys just because u like them)

2. Don't buy something that is completely not his style. He will think u're trying to change him and start resenting u.

3. Don't buy him bad clothing gifts like jeans if he only wears khakis or Gucci shoes if he only wears timberland.

4. Don't buy him big practical things for his house like decorations or plates. These are too domestic and he may think u're gonna move in with him.

5. Do buy him small tchotchkes such as scent candles or clocks.

6. Be wary of buying him a wallet or organizer. Guys are very picky about such things.

We know that communication is the key to any successful relationship. Unfortunately, guys do not like to talk about their relationship issues with their gf even though they realize how important such talk is. Its ironic then, that guys can sometimes be very gd in communication during work but yet have such a tough time talking to their gf. Its not that a couple shouldn't talk about their relationship issues but there is a right time and mood to talk about it. Bring up such an issue to your guy on his bad days and u'd get an equally bad or listless response. To most guys, talking about relationship issues only takes place when needed, when there are problems to be solved.

Every guy would love an intelligent and responsive girl. One who knows how to listen and pose questions. No guy will like it if a girl keep talking about her ex or whatever handsome or rich guy that she knows. We guys will only think u're some insecure money sucker or whats so great about having big bucks?! A guy wants to be liked for himself, not for what he will spend on a girl or do for her. In guy terms, a girl who appreciate this is a girl with positive energy and affability - a cool chick! Well i guess girls hate being called a chick as it sounds like some whore but the truth is that the word 'chick' is just a guy thing, a word that guy use among guys and nothing more.

All guys have different characters but these are things which most share in common no matter what their characteristics are. And finally, we guys HATE TO BE LOOKED UPON OR LABELLED AS DESPERATES/PERVERTS! Yes there are lots of such assholes out there but not every guy is like that, and well there are sluts and bitches too so isn't they worth a mention as well?