Saturday, October 22, 2005
It does matters
Technology and fashion may change over the years but 1 thing remain as stereotyped as ever, that is looks. Yes looks does matters!
Is there such a thing as 'the heart matters more than looks'? Yes there is. Is there such a thing as 'looks are important'? Yes too, there is. Complicated? Maybe not, just sum it up - looks and character are both vital especially in the case of dating or choosing a partner. So which is more important? Character definitely, without doubts, but looks is not far away as i can tell u. Many of us include looks in our list when we choose a partner, choose a date, select an employee and even when making a friend.
Of all those 4 points i guess 'when making a friend' seem the most ridiculous but its true. The good looking ones out there, how many of u would actually consider it when an ugly guy or plain jane wants to befriend u? Imagine this siutation on friendster and i can tell u they will find the small 'x' box on the top right hand corner of their internet explorer window more attractive than to even consider befriending the guy/gal. I admit i'm no different from them, but i'm not saying i'm good looking just saying that i do consider looks sometimes when choosing a friend, especially on the net. This is usually how i decide.....
*new friend request*
Me: click and check who is it
Me: 1st thing i notice - photo
If i find it appealing - accept
If i don't find it appealing - reject and close the window
Cruel it might seem but its just reality in fact. Generally good looking people would want a good looking partner/bf/gf but 8 out of 10 of these good looking people end up having an average or below average partner. Why? Tell me how do u fight fire with fire?!
Good looks attracts trouble. Good looks brings insecurity. Argue all u want but its true, just imagine having a very attractive bf/gf and whereever u go with him/her everyone just can't take their eyes off him/her. How do u feel? Jealous. What will probably happen? Quarrel. This aside, having a good looking partner also means u have to be aware of what is going on around him/her, such as whether there would be girls/guys trying to catch his/her attention or flirt with him/her. How would u feel? Insecure. What would probably happen? U tend to get more possessive and lose the trust. Good looking people are also the most risky ones, they know they have the looks to really win anyone's heart, they know they have choices and thats where taking things for granted starts. Yes there're good looking people who doesn't think or behave this way but the chances of meeting them are low.
Lets just face it, all of us yearn for a captivating cutie hunk or a gorgeous babe despite knowing our limits and the risks they bring, don't we? Even if it means making a fool out of ourselves or being left red-faced after rejection, some of us actually don't care. Looks is just so important that i know some friends of mine who simply date accordinly to looks. They want to feel proud or good to have someone so attractive walking beside them on the streets and just in case they bump into their friends on the streets they can proudly 'show off' their glamorous date.
Even when walking on the streets most of us will only wanna bio those who are cute or good looking ones, so what happens to the plain janes or guys? Treated like invisible people. What actually makes looking at cute /handsome/pretty people on the streets so appealing to us? For me its the imginations that often fill my mind, when i see a babe. I might just go....."wow how great if only she's my gf..", and i think this is actually what makes people so happy or excited when they spot a hunk/babe on the streets. Is this lust or desperation? I don't think so, this is more to normal. But there are also people who spot a babe and go "wah look at that low cut hipster and D-cup boobs, if i can squeeze it sure shiok!", and these are the pervertic ones. Once again, good looks attracts troubles!
Whats becomes of the not-so-good-looking ones then? Rejection is the word to use. They often face more rejection than others in their lives. I have a plain jane friend who failed to get a job after an interview because the next interviewee was a pretty girl. There was another incident at a party where a group of guys approach a group of girls to invite them to dance, there were a guy and a girl left after everyone had choosen their dance partners. Guess what? The girl said: "forget it i think i'd better get a drink there than dance with u". Everyone who heard it can't help feeling sorry for the guy and the girl wasn't that pretty also.
Good looks doesn't guarantee a good heart. In the past i'd only date the good looking girls, in fact the more good looking the girl is, the more determined i am to date her and win her heart. Alas as i found out, their character either sucks or we have personality clashes. The worse that can happen is when a girl thinks she's some big fuck, behaving like a queen, and the same goes for a guy. Moral of the story - looker instead of just looking at the surface. Specially for people who have a soft tendency to get carried away or influenced with some sweet words or feelings.
Technology and fashion may change over the years but 1 thing remain as stereotyped as ever, that is looks. Yes looks does matters!
Is there such a thing as 'the heart matters more than looks'? Yes there is. Is there such a thing as 'looks are important'? Yes too, there is. Complicated? Maybe not, just sum it up - looks and character are both vital especially in the case of dating or choosing a partner. So which is more important? Character definitely, without doubts, but looks is not far away as i can tell u. Many of us include looks in our list when we choose a partner, choose a date, select an employee and even when making a friend.
Of all those 4 points i guess 'when making a friend' seem the most ridiculous but its true. The good looking ones out there, how many of u would actually consider it when an ugly guy or plain jane wants to befriend u? Imagine this siutation on friendster and i can tell u they will find the small 'x' box on the top right hand corner of their internet explorer window more attractive than to even consider befriending the guy/gal. I admit i'm no different from them, but i'm not saying i'm good looking just saying that i do consider looks sometimes when choosing a friend, especially on the net. This is usually how i decide.....
*new friend request*
Me: click and check who is it
Me: 1st thing i notice - photo
If i find it appealing - accept
If i don't find it appealing - reject and close the window
Cruel it might seem but its just reality in fact. Generally good looking people would want a good looking partner/bf/gf but 8 out of 10 of these good looking people end up having an average or below average partner. Why? Tell me how do u fight fire with fire?!
Good looks attracts trouble. Good looks brings insecurity. Argue all u want but its true, just imagine having a very attractive bf/gf and whereever u go with him/her everyone just can't take their eyes off him/her. How do u feel? Jealous. What will probably happen? Quarrel. This aside, having a good looking partner also means u have to be aware of what is going on around him/her, such as whether there would be girls/guys trying to catch his/her attention or flirt with him/her. How would u feel? Insecure. What would probably happen? U tend to get more possessive and lose the trust. Good looking people are also the most risky ones, they know they have the looks to really win anyone's heart, they know they have choices and thats where taking things for granted starts. Yes there're good looking people who doesn't think or behave this way but the chances of meeting them are low.
Lets just face it, all of us yearn for a captivating cutie hunk or a gorgeous babe despite knowing our limits and the risks they bring, don't we? Even if it means making a fool out of ourselves or being left red-faced after rejection, some of us actually don't care. Looks is just so important that i know some friends of mine who simply date accordinly to looks. They want to feel proud or good to have someone so attractive walking beside them on the streets and just in case they bump into their friends on the streets they can proudly 'show off' their glamorous date.
Even when walking on the streets most of us will only wanna bio those who are cute or good looking ones, so what happens to the plain janes or guys? Treated like invisible people. What actually makes looking at cute /handsome/pretty people on the streets so appealing to us? For me its the imginations that often fill my mind, when i see a babe. I might just go....."wow how great if only she's my gf..", and i think this is actually what makes people so happy or excited when they spot a hunk/babe on the streets. Is this lust or desperation? I don't think so, this is more to normal. But there are also people who spot a babe and go "wah look at that low cut hipster and D-cup boobs, if i can squeeze it sure shiok!", and these are the pervertic ones. Once again, good looks attracts troubles!
Whats becomes of the not-so-good-looking ones then? Rejection is the word to use. They often face more rejection than others in their lives. I have a plain jane friend who failed to get a job after an interview because the next interviewee was a pretty girl. There was another incident at a party where a group of guys approach a group of girls to invite them to dance, there were a guy and a girl left after everyone had choosen their dance partners. Guess what? The girl said: "forget it i think i'd better get a drink there than dance with u". Everyone who heard it can't help feeling sorry for the guy and the girl wasn't that pretty also.
Good looks doesn't guarantee a good heart. In the past i'd only date the good looking girls, in fact the more good looking the girl is, the more determined i am to date her and win her heart. Alas as i found out, their character either sucks or we have personality clashes. The worse that can happen is when a girl thinks she's some big fuck, behaving like a queen, and the same goes for a guy. Moral of the story - looker instead of just looking at the surface. Specially for people who have a soft tendency to get carried away or influenced with some sweet words or feelings.
This is not a discrimination against ugly people, this is purely my personal opinion and experience. Read between the lines and u will see that i actually prefer character over looks.
Picture of the day - my new David Beckham Instinct Perfume
It smells very manly! rofl!
posted by mango at 4:33 PM
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