10 Simple Secrets of Success

1 - The Past is not the future
Its tempting to simplify things. The game is rigid. Some people have all the advantages and they succeed. Some have all the disadvantages and they fail. It is also terribly misleading. Your success is far more dependent on your behavior nnow than it is based upon where u grew up, where u went to school or whether your path so far has been easy or difficult. Opportunity lies ahead, its a matter of whether or not u choose to pursue it.

2 - U will get wat u're afraid of
When we spend time worrying about things that could go wrong, we're not spending time trying to improve. That's like saying worrying about things going wrong will increase the chances of them going wrong. Accepting that we will have a fair share of success and failures will free us to pursue achievements and to spend time thinking about wat we can do instead of wat we can't. Negatively kills!

3 - Nobody wins without a loser
On the path to success, u will sometimes confornt siutations in which u must directly complete with someone and your victory will create bitterness or a rivalry. Even more frequently, your success will cause others to compare themselves to u and to react with jealousy at your ability. Take comfort in the knowledge that it is not a personal attack but rather a sincere but unpleasant form of flattery that can't be avoided sometimes.

4 - If u dun believe, no one else will
Sometimes we look to others to convince us of wat we want to believe. Ironically, others base their true judgements, not just on wat they think we can do, but on wat they think we can do. Confusing? Its easy, it means people around u will most likely mirror your feelings - showing u fear when u show fear and confidence when u demostrate confidence. The point then is - u cant rely on others to convince u because they will rely on u to convince them.

5 - Don't want everything
We think of many shits in a race - who gets the promotion, who gets the biggest salary, who has the fastest car, bla bla. Its a race between us and everyone around us for these things. Yet we don't need to have these things to succeed. What we need is wat we need. Just because someone else wants to be at the top does not mean u need the same things.
Success in life is not a matter of getting everything. Thats impossible and wouldn't be much of a joy even if its possible. Success is a matter of getting wat u need. Think of success as filling a box. U will soon finish the box by working harder to fill it but also by choosing a smaller box.

6 - U can't force yourself to like Broccoli!
Certain job requires a distinct personality. There is little point in pursuing a job in communications if u're an introvert person who doesn't like to interact with people. If your soul bursts with passionate creativity, u're not likely to be content with a job in accounting. Notice the similiarties in both statements?
Personalities are like shoe size. They are not subject to our choice of perference but they can be occasionally fudged - with uncomfortable consequences. Realize who u are, wat your true personality is and choose a future with it. There's no such thing as i dunno what my personality is!

7 - It's not about how freaking hard u try
"Work hard and u will be rewarded." Its a familiar statement to most right? But remember wat it was like studying for a test? Some kids study forever and still did badly. Some studied hardly at all and made great grades. Now its not because the ones who study and fail are fucking stupid.
The point is, u can spend incredible effort inefficiently and gain nothing. Or u can spend modest efforts efficiently and be rewarded. The purpose of wat u do is to make progress, not just to expend yourself.

8 - Remember the difference between u and everyone else
Turn on the evening news and u'll see another day's catalog of terror and traumma. Read the business page and u'll see which local company is downsizing. Our big picture perspective can be shaped or misshaped, by attention grabbing shits.
The news doesn't cover people who had a particulaly good da, do they? The news doesn't cover the continued existence of a healthy company either, do they? Don't let the negative picture of the world cloud your perspective, thats the main lesson here.

9 - Get your motivation where u can find it
People who care seem to do a better job in everything they do. Why do people care? Wat inspires them? The answer is almost anything that u can imagine. Some people are driven internally by their own competitive juices. Some are driven externally by their thirst for approval and appreciation. Some are driven by a desire to succeed to show up their families.
Use wat u really care about to make yourself passionate and how things turn out.

10 - Failure is not trying
Who doesn't fear failure? U've got to be from woodbridge to say u dun fear that. Nobody wants to reveal to others or to themselves that they were not capable of doing something they tried to do. This fear cab be used as a source of motivation to keep u working hard towards your goals.
Yet this same fear offers a convenient escape clause. U can never fail if u dun bother to try.
Not trying is, of course the ultimate failure, for it means u can never make progress towards your goals.