Next time your partner tells you how obedient or faithful they have been, have your doubts raised. Human nature, irresistable lure of lust or loneliness? Whatever it is, all of us have done it or have at least experienced some 'over the line' crimes in relationships. You tell your girl how sweet, thoughtful and great she is, and then you tell an acquaintance how nice her eyes are, how cute she is, or whatever. Is this a form of 'over the line' crimes? Sure it is. How about an attached guy buying a stranger girl a drink?

People say guys make up the majority of the flirts but I beg to differ. Girls are no different. The other night, an old friend of mine was at the club with me and being packed and squeeze, she held onto me as we zig-zag our way through the crowds. She's attached and I did feel sorry for her guy. I'm not a bastard, I didn't take advantage of her, we are old friends and there's nothing 'cheesy' going on. But I know no guys (ok maybe the odd 1 or 2 out) will be able to tolerate their girl holding hands or holding onto another guy at the club. Guys may have more tendency to flirt than girls but it's not right to say they make up the majority of the flirts or 'over the line criminals'.

I've seen girls who are attached dirty dancing with strangers at the club, flirting with the cute waiter or getting too affectionate in public when the status is only 'friends'. I put it all down to human essence, it flows in all of us. Sometimes we may not realize we are crossing the line and overdoing things. It's incredible that women can sometimes say something like "aiya its only flirting mah, not like I sleep with him or what right!" and yet when they see their guy chatting with a sweetie or cutie on msn, they get all agigated.

To most people, it seem that flirting is fine so long they don't go beyond that onto the sexual part which is totally and correctly an unacceptable sin for any attached person. And sadly, these sins do happen when insensitive people failed to realized they are crossing the line when dumping the respect and thought for their partners by participating in sinful 'over the line crimes' like getting to know new guys/girls, secretly going clubbing, going out on solo dates, etc to the point of no return.

However, god is fair. For every bad ass they create, a good apple is created too. But we humans being one of a kind, will still have the tendency to make stray sometimes without knowing it.